Red Responds: Is He My Soulmate?

Anthony in Manassas writes:

I am a gay person who is still in love with my former partner. Originally from Long Island, I moved to Virginia in July of 2005 for an employment opportunity. We have had a stormy relationship at times, but I feel that this person is my soulmate. He hasn’t responded to my emails. I haven’t communicated with him for quite sometime because I feel that he doesn’t want to reconnect. I wonder if we ever will? I can’t seem to get over him, even though I have been dating another person.

Dear Anthony,

While I do think you will hear from your former partner, I really don’t want to get your hopes up relative to this relationship.

It seems as though your old flame has determined to move on with his life. A slightly guarded and uncomfortable ‘keeping in touch’ relationship is possible, but I don’t see the two of you coming back together or connecting on any real level. And with as much love as you still have for this man, I really want you to prepare for this and be careful.

I honestly don’t know that you will ever “get over” him completely. That’s the down side of truly loving someone. Hope does keep love alive — it gives it power. You are still holding on to hope, even though your logical mind tells you it’s not practical. I could give you a list of reasons why you should let go of your hope and move on, but it’s up to you to decide to actually do it.

As for your soulmate — well, let me just say I don’t think you’ve met him yet. He is out there, and he will find his way to you when the time is right.

Gay or straight — love is love. It brings with it the ultimate joys and highs of life, and leaves an aftermath of pain when it departs.

Brightest Blessings,

Red ext. 9226

2 thoughts on “Red Responds: Is He My Soulmate?

  1. Louise Luna

    I really felt the pain that Anthony is feeling over his situation with the loss of his companion and the lack of communication from his former boyfriend. We have all been there. It’s a pain that is bittersweet. Anthony does admit that they had a ‘stormy’ relationship. That should tell him that in spite of his feelings, the relationship had its pitfalls. Again, I say, meeting our ‘soulmates’ is very often a learning experience. The more stormy a situation is the more people insist the other person is their soulmate. Forget this soulmate business, and look instead for your Twin Soul. It’s not just semantics – there is a difference. If you research it, the difference will become apparent, and we won’t be so on the lookout for this Soulmate to complete us. Peace Be!


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