Dear Red,
I feel like I am stuck! I am five months pregnant and have a very bad relationship with the father. He lives in another state but is moving here soon. I don’t know if I should try to get along with him for the baby or not. Is it worth it? Do I just need to move on and get a fresh start in a new town? Everything I try to accomplish seems not to happen. I don’t know what to do.
I am planning on moving out of town soon. But am I making the right choice? I feel like if I move maybe I can change my life and be happy — make a new start for myself and my four other children. But on the other hand is it a good idea, really? I am also planning on continuing my education but I have no idea what I want to pursue as far as my career. I have no idea where my life is going I feel like I am drowning in the ocean of life. Help!
Nika in Huntsville
Dear Nika,
Whoa! Take a deep breath!
First things first. Whether you want to or not, the more civil you can be with your unborn child’s father, the better. He is, because of your baby, going to be in and out of your life. There is a strong possibility that he will try and reignite the romance with you, but even if you permit it, the positive aspects will not last. Set some boundaries and ground rules with the man, for the sake of your child.
Looking at your thoughts on moving, it is a great idea, but not at this time. The emphasis is on your education and career; which will play a large part in your future relocation. Whichever path you choose, it is a career opportunity that causes you to relocate.
Apparently, you are quite multi-talented. It is as if any path you choose, you will succeed. I’m not sure what your thoughts are on the subject, but it looks as if you will be working in some aspect of finance. There is a world of possibility out there for you, because anything that has you dealing with people, law, business, or finance, and offers a flexible schedule would be a good fit for the life you are looking to create.
I would like to encourage you to take a career assessment test and profile. This will help you to feel a little more proactive about your life, and will give you great insight on how you should proceed. Researching all the variables and possibilities presented by the assessment results will help keep you occupied for a bit, which I think you need. You’ve got a lot of nervous energy going on, and the whole hormonal thing really isn’t helping.
It’s time to try treading water instead of racing toward the shore. Sometimes it is only when we learn to relax and enjoy “what is” can we clearly see what will be.
Brightest Blessings,
Red
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